Counseling Style: It’s not just Theory
Updated: Sep 11, 2020
Counseling style; a term used to describe how a therapist interacts with their clients in order to facilitate change. If you are just starting out as a therapist (like myself) you may have ran into the debate of:
I align with this theory so I should try and do more of that theory but the more I try I feel less like myself.
Aligning with a theory is one thing (theoretical orientation) but counseling style is taking your counseling skills of attending, theoretical knowledge, and human development knowledge and blending it with your own personality. Sounds like a simple concept huh? The process of blending takes more effort and self-awareness than it may seem.
The most effective way to develop your counseling style is by regularly analyzing recordings of yourself in practice or real life sessions so that you can discuss them with a supervisor. The conversation that takes place between you and your supervisor is where a lot of your learning will come from other than through self-assessment.
Self-assessment of one’s interest in and motivation for receiving supervision is a logical first step in preparing for the supervision experience. Given that supervised counseling experience is required to obtain a degree and license, formal supervision is essentially a mandated, involuntary requirement. MHC practicum students need to ask themselves the degree to which they consider supervision to be an opportunity for learning, an inconvenience, a restriction, or an imposition (Pearson, 2004).
When thinking about this self-assessment it is important to consider what characteristics are considered to be required to be an effective therapist. Pearson (2004) lists what supervisors’ rated as being the most important student attributes:
demonstrates willingness to grow;
takes responsibility for consequences of own behavior;
actively participates in supervision sessions;
demonstrates respect and appreciation for individual differences;
and demonstrates understanding of own personal dynamics as they relate to therapy and supervision
By effectively working on these characteristics to improve you supervision experience and self-reflection a therapist is able to improve their counseling skills and develop their counseling style more effectively.
As I work to develop my own counseling style I am taking into account that I am an introvert that appreciates slow, and methodical thinking. I may not be as spontaneous in my conversation as others but I appreciate putting a thought process and structure behind my interventions. At the same time however it is important to remember that a therapy session is a conversation with your client. Does the conversation style you exhibit fit your personality or are you trying to change some of your ingrained personality traits?
In a recent reflection paper I pointed out that I wanted to be more active in my sessions. My supervisor came back with a similar question to the one that I just posed, "How would you like to be active in session?" From that experience I was able to reflect and realize that as a counseling student I have been shown many different counseling styles that integrate theory and therapist personality - the challenge now and for the rest of my career will be to develop the style into something that fits my personality and is effective in helping my clients. The process of developing our counseling style begins when we start learning about how to be a therapist – from that point on we will be changing our style as we change ourselves and one thing we know as counselors is that development crosses the lifespan.
When evaluating your counseling style think about the following:
What are your strengths as an individual?
What are your biggest personality strengths?
What is your theoretical orientation?
How does your personality match up with your theoretical orientation?
What is keeping your from being an effective therapist?
What makes you an effective therapist?
In the mental health field we talk about strengths and weaknesses and how they can help us in treatment. The challenge in developing our counseling style is realizing what are own strengths and gifts are so that we can use them to create the best results in therapy. In order to achieve this however, we need to accept the areas in which we do not excel.
In order to continue exploring this topic feel free to check out my references and come back to explore with me in future posts.
Pearson, Q. (2004). Getting the most out of clinical supervision: Strategies for mental health. Journal of Mental Health Counseling. 26, 4, pg. 361-373.
Originally posted on www.jonugaldelpc.com March 9th, 2015